ARE YOU SHOWING UP AS A REACTIVE (MASCULINE) WOMAN? OR A FEMININE WOMAN?

ARE YOU SHOWING UP AS A REACTIVE (MASCULINE) WOMAN? OR A FEMININE WOMAN?

REACTIVE: Attacking, lashing out, ignoring, punishing and being aggressive when feeling strong emotions come up.

Some women often tell me: "Gio are you telling me I can't be authentic and tell him how I truly feel?"
And through our work they realize that what they call authentic is often DRAMA, CODEPENDENCE, NEEDINESS, BURDEN, INVALIDATION AND REACTIVITY.

Reactivity is especially an interesting one to me- as Masculine energy is all about fight or flight, reaction, doing....and Femininity is feeling and sharing, responsiveness and yet so many women lead with Reactivity...

"If he doesn't call me, he must not be in to me- so now I will take it personally and ignore his calls."
"If he needs space, it must mean I am not wanted."
"If he watches porn, it must mean he doesn't think I am enough."
"I'll shut him down before he shuts me down."
"I'll leave him before he leaves me."
"i'll be so scared of being unwanted I will let it drive the way I treat him."

Reactivity is when we are hyper vigilant, expecting rejection or attributing rejection to any activity that challenges our certainty in love. It is when our first move is to take things personally and make it about us- where we lead through a spirit of rejection, instead of trust.
And yet reactivity is an old and primal way of getting and staying in control-

Reactivity is being adversarial when our needs are not met.

Let me repeat that....

Reactivity is being adversarial when our needs are not met.

It is the subtle betrayal of a partner when we turn them into enemies in one feel swoop.

If I explode with my emotions, I get a response from him, I make him feel things, or I see how much he cares......

"I'll make him wrong, blame him, have drama all over the place because I feel connected to him like this."
and yet reactivity will push love away.

Helping women move from feeling "powerful" through reactivity to actually being incredible TRULY

POWERFUL through responsiveness is literally a complete game changer for every aspect of their life.

So what is the difference between healthy boundaries, having a man treat you right, and reactivity?

Well, we will be covering this much more in depth at the institute, get on the waiting list to claim your spot!

You are always loved,
Gio

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