This world continually gives us more opportunities as women, opportunities we have fought for and I am so grateful for. However as a relationship expert who coaches powerful men and women and couples each week—I see the trend of pushing women way too much into their masculine energy.
Leaving women feeling disconnected from their most powerful essence at their own core!
Masculine energy is the energy that helps us get things done:
- Has us move through our to do lists
- Conquer our empires
- Strategize and calculate everything
- Become self-sufficient and totally independent.
...and show up with men with this same leading, masculine energy... however, to men, if we show up in this energy, they feel like they are on a date with a man, a dude or a buddy. Men will routinely say to me:
"She was beautiful but she felt like a guy."
"My wife just felt like I was coming home to have sex with another man."
And all of their attraction and sexual polarity with us dries up. I coach men every week and they all tell me the same thing—they long for Feminine women… Femininity.
Just like we as women long for Masculinity in men—for a man to step up, protect, take care of, lead. Your Feminine energy looks like the moments when you are deeply connected to your heart, your softness, your receptivity (you allow yourself to be loved, pursued, adored and you drop your guardedness, reactivity and aggression. Your Feminine energy comes out when you have no goal, no agenda which means you are free to connect with those around you simply for WHO they are, not the outcome they take you too. Feminine energy is all about WHO YOU ARE and WHO HE IS. Not on trying to get someone to love you, give to you or change for you. In your Femininity, you are relaxed in your sensual, feeling body, you are empathic, taking it all in, your curiosity about life, yourself and the other comes out to play, you become a powerful force for creating wild and free and deep intimacy, connection, play… your soul emerges with it's intuition, it's inner knowing… You are Goddess.
You share the full range of your emotions to create connection, you share both light and dark, peace and storm and in sharing this open the other to share their soul with you and create a bond with you which the other's Soul feels like home and deep companionship. In your Feminine you becoming vulnerable because you allow your Soul to be seen as it is, and you make others vulnerable because you see their Souls as they are—without the personas, masks, images and facades. Acceptance.
This is absolutely and stunningly irresistible to masculine men. I have seen men get dizzy, literally lose their balance and surrender to a woman who shows up in her deep, embodied Feminine energy.
Don't buy into the marketing hype that being a powerful woman is all about your masculine energy—nothing is more anti-woman than that. You can have both energies and know when to give yourself the freedom to express them.
You are always loved,