What is Your Relationship With Your Feminine?

In the work I do I am always unearthing each woman's relationship to her feminine energy. Each woman weaves herself into her definition of Woman, but her Feminine energy remains there for her benefit or untapped. Listen in and see something I see all too often.

Client: When I was a little girl it was like I didn't count as much as my brothers. They got away with things I didn't. It was like their needs were above my own or my mother's. I don't know how I knew but it was like my mother expected me to please her and that wasn't put on my brothers. I didn't matter as much.

Gio: So what happened because of that?

Client: "Well I became a tomboy, and I tried to be like boys."

Gio: "and when your body began changing into a more womanly body, I imagine you began resenting it"

Client: "Yes, totally! How did you know?!"

Gio: "and then you started getting attention from boys..."

Client: "yes but I never wanted it, I never wanted their attention. I didn't for years and years."

Gio: Of course not, you were rejecting the very thing they were attracted to and this was secondary. And when your body started getting attention from boys, what did you do with that attention?"

Client: Silence. Hushed tones. "I… I manipulated men."

Gio: "Yep...you couldn't receive that attention and enjoy it because you were outside of your body, you were trying to get your power back, to make up for the powerlessness."

This meant my client grew up into her late 30’s unable to receive love from men, prioritizing her masculine energy in everything she did, especially her career and only using her sexuality as a means to power with men, not as a means to enjoy herself and receive pleasure.

So women equate being desirable to having power over men = having safety, social status, provision, protection, commitment, not being abandoned, etc. Instead of receiving desire as a gift, it becomes a means to an end. This leads to a woman objectifying a man—as she feels objectified herself. Men this is such a pervasive wound among women, and it is great that you understand it, especially when you see a hardened, masculine woman or a woman who doesn't fully surrender sexually. It is in the way you show up as men that can lead a hardened woman to soften and reconnect to her repressed and disconnected femininity. The harder a woman has become, the softer she was to begin with.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Some women often tell me: "Gio are you telling me I can't be authentic and tell him how I truly feel?"And through our work they will often see that what they considered to be “normal” ways or “authentic” ways of communicating were actually more in the realm of DRAMA, CO-DEPENDENCE, NEEDINESS, BURDEN, INVALIDATION AND REACTIVITY.

All of these aren’t our authentic selves, they are our coping selves, our survivalist selves, our fear driven selves—and when these drive, and for a lot of women they do, whether they know it or not—love cannot happen nor can it be sustained. At the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute we teach you Irresistible communication with men along with doing deep inner work to find the true, authentic you, buried under coping and survival mechanisms in love—and this becomes like magic turning our ladies into magnets for men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

The man who can hold you, your positives, your imperfections, your soul, your spirit, your humanity, the man you can be your truest self with.

A partner in life to go through the ups, to go through the downs, to build your legacy, to support your mutual vision and purpose in life.....

Always ask yourself when dating, is this man a good partner for life?

And then ask, is this man an amazing partner for the life I have on this earth.....

You want a partner—not just a marriage, a ring, a wedding, a validation certificate, you want someone who goes ALL IN and will be there, through thick and thin, and has the ability to SEE partnership for what it was meant to be.

Once you mature past the ego striving, past the wounded child desperate for love, and you are present to yourself and your life more than anything—you realize how short it really is, and you get crystal clear on what is MOST IMPORTANT—when the noise settles, what will matter. Look for THAT.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Men Can’t Read Our Minds

So, what would healthy  love do? Ladies, one big mistake we make is assume Men know how to love us

So when a guy messes up he can either receive grace and guidance or rejection and punishment from us. We go to punishment as a first option so very often it wrecks love and attraction fast.

The problem is when we think that mess up is a rejection or lack of love from him to us.

Assuming he already knows how to love you will have him feeling like he constantly disappoints that expectation (a man needs to know HOW to win with you.)

Love guides, fear demands, Love meets us where we are, fear constantly makes him fall short.

A High Value Woman accepts, rejects and lets a guy know how to win with her—she doesn't chase, lean forward, step in for him, pursue, fix but she knows how to have men with win her.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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The Importance of Being Turned Off

One of the most important gut level responses we can have is to be sensitive to when we feel turned off by someone and by someone's behavior.

A man approached you in a not so respectful way.

An acquaintance's approach to you didn't have the best intentions.

It could be a thousand reasons—and yet so often we dismiss their behavior because we are feeling insecure and we need validation. We need to be liked—we need to approve of and so instead of staying present to how it made us feel and whether we want to stay there.....whether or not we approve, we like, we want, and we are turned off....?
We stay, in one way or another. That guy's minimal investment in you is sounding off as a big turn off, whatever his reasons—if your heart stay attached to him despite these turnoffs it’s often a sign you aren't honoring yourself—which means you aren't VALUING yourself.

That turn off is telling you know he is half-assing it—yet there we are.... hung up on his next text.

Staying in any situation where you should be turned off and detached is always a mirror to healing that needs to take place for you-' in your confidence, in your worth. Once you learn how to heal this you aren't a beggar looking for validation crumbs everywhere—you already have it within you… and so the next thing you feel is the turn off—and you detach...

Yep, I don’t want to be here.

Nope, I don't want to respond to that email.

I have nothing to say now, I am going to go do other things...

OK. I understand. However I am now going to move on.

MANTRA: "Although I've tended to be very good about not returning to situations I feel turned off by, I always prioritize getting better at it… and honoring my boundaries, interests and treating turn off responses as filters for where and with whom I should be."

You are always loved,

- Gio

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What energy are you attracted to in men? Women can choose different types of men they are attracted to—a large percentage of the women we work with are very attracted to masculine energy—and as energetic of relationship go—you create “attraction”  or polarity with an energy when you show the opposite magnetic energy. Yin, Yang. Feminine/Masculine

So tell us below—do you find healthy masculine energy in men attractive?

Or are you more attracted to a man presenting with more feminine energy?

No right or wrong—just knowing your preference when it comes to yourself, what you feel attraction to  and what you desire.

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The Power Of Your Feminine Energy Signals Deeply To Men

My Client shares this with me and I start laughing because it never fails.

Men always respond to your energy, they have a radar for this. My client and I have done incredible work in 5 sessions and her radiance, FEMININE ENERGY  and open heart is showing up big time.

"Gio! You won't believe it. I keep telling myself the attention I am getting from guys is a fluke or just coincidence but this isn't. My friend has a hot, super quality guy friend whom I've known for 2 years. Even though we were introduced way back when, whenever we would run into him or see him (and I would be with my friend) he would barely acknowledge me and I mean barely. He would focus on my friend and they would catch up.”

Well we ran into him again at a restaurant/bar and I just sat quietly expecting things to go as usual and be kind of ignored. He said hi to my friend but then turned around, noticed me and laser—focused in on me!!! He kept asking me questions and smiling and then asked me even more questions. I couldn't believe it!

He asked me about what I do and just kept going on and on. Then he said I looked beautiful and then asked me for my card. I told him I didn't have any cards on me so he asked if I could add him on Facebook. He then left to talk to other people, but not 15 minutes later came back to ask me why I hadn't added him on Facebook! LOL!

Then he asked me if I'd like to hang out sometime and asked for my number!!! Gio I've run into this guy several times over 2 years, he has barely noticed me and 5 weeks into working with you, the guy asks me out on a date! Yeah right! That is no fluke!!!"

The best part of this is that Bethany had never in her life been as concerned about her weight as she felt she was weighing the heaviest she ever had and yet—there you go—the guy he had the hots for asked her out. The guy she had silently admired and thought, "out of my league!"

Men feel into your energy way before they notice how you look, are dressed and act. Your energy radiates when our heart feels safe, loved, whole and supported—come join us and over 20,000 amazing women at our Free Facebook Support Group The High Value Woman!

You are always loved,


- Gio

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The practice of listening in to your SOUL and creating intimacy with yourself, leads you to knowing how to have your Man open his heart to you in ways that have him feel completely devoted to you. People often ask, "I know I need Self-love but how do I make it real?"

How does self-love descend from your head into your heart?

Self-love descends into your heart when you are willing to look into what others would look away from. When you are willing to meet shame with acceptance, understanding, a listening ear, compassion and truth.

Self-love is your own gentle friendship with your own self. Your unwillingness to flinch, judge, belittle, shame or humiliate the parts of you you feel most humiliated for having.

You know— those dark parts we shudder to think we have—the jealous feelings, the real, ugly, anger, the inner needy taker, the insecure hater… the sellout, the part of us that is in a grey zone when it comes to integrity… the fears, the little child crying…

If you shame those aspects of yourself which is what self-rejection does (you reject those parts of you)... they will never get the ONE thing they need to come back into wholeness… your own LOVE.

Remember that whatever you don't listen to within yourself, gets shouted out to everyone else around you.

Today, gift yourself the space to listen in to any and all feelings, and keep asking your heart why it feels this way—no fixing, no numbing, no telling your heart what it should feel.

Being listened to is one of the most powerful forms of LOVE.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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The #1 Thing That Makes a Man Fall in Love with You

A man falls in love with you when he can be totally himself with you, like he can't be with anyone else.
When you show up with your guards down, connected to your own heart and self, you are able to create that space with a man.

That space is a space of intimacy.
In that safe space a man begins to drop out of his own head and begins feelings his own heart, his own feelings. He opens up to you because he feels safe with you. When you are yourself with him, you show that you trust yourself, that you know yourself, that you can handle your emotions. Whenever we can’t handle our emotions, we become self-absorbed.

When you accept yourself enough to be who you are with him, he feels safe to be totally himself around you. He begins to open up and share with you things he shares with no one else.  A man sees a soulmate, when he sees a companion for his soul—his innermost, truest being.

In order to open up to you, to be totally himself with you, a man needs to feel safe around you. He needs to feel he can tell you anything and you will be able to handle it. He falls in love with you when he feels he can be totally himself around you.

He feels this way because he knows that you aren't trying to control him, or your own feelings, or the circumstances to go in your favor, you are just sharing a moment with him, connecting. And when his guard comes down, and his heart begins to open, and he lets you in to his world... when you leave he begins to miss you, that space where he can be totally himself with you, the woman who knows his heart-' who is sensitive and in tune with those emotions he may not even be in tune with himself.

As a woman, your feminine is  your own presence and curiosity (which is love and interest for him) and your own intuition (able to tune in) to another's heart.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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When men aren’t mirroring back our worth to us, it has everything to do with how we’re showing up (for ourselves, in our life and with the men) and nothing to do with our value as women.

The Institute helps connect you with your eternal value, which is within you right now, exactly as you are—and then gives you the tools to lead with that inner essence more and more over time and not with the wounds and fears that obscure your feminine radiance and may have had these men pulling away after initially being in hot pursuit.


When you can create intense emotional attraction with a man, they not only stay but they never want to leave! Often it’s when that surface level attraction doesn’t develop into something with soul substance that men move on quickly… then we blame ourselves, usually attacking our appearance or our material level of success or the fact that we slept with him on the 4th date rather than the 11th instead of realising that it’s our capacity to create (and sustain) heart connection and emotional attraction. This first and foremost requires intimacy with your own heart which, if you’re anything like me, was a foreign concept for most of my life because my mind and its thoughts were all I paid attention to.

We’re all here to support you and if you feel drawn to the Institute, I couldn’t recommend it highly enough X"

→ Stated so well by one our amazing EFW graduates and now EFW leader Nada Iancov.

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