It's not your neediness that is your problem. It is the shame you feel because you are needy.
"I don't want them to know... I'm needy."
I will shame this part of me and hide from them.
Listen... all neediness is, is an unmet need.
If you skip lunch, you'll get hunger pains—your body needs food.
If you skip food all day- your blood sugar will talk to you—your body needs food.
If you fast for several days without proper nutritional reserves—it might weaken you into starvation mode and you will definitely be needy for food.
Would you shame your body for being hungry? No.
Why would you shame your soul for being hungry?
Neediness is an inner lack of nourishment. That is it.
When we don't properly meet our needs we will naturally meet with others from a place of inner hunger and it will show.
If you shame your hunger, it does nothing to feed the hunger.
Next time you are needy and someone tells you you are, the first thing to knowing how to nourish yourself is by acknowledging that you are hungry.
OWN the neediness as it comes up, beautifully.
Sit down and feel it. Feel the words; You are Needy.
Watch as shame begins to burn in your stomach, through your chest, all the way to your cheeks.
Watch as you quickly bully the need in you (and then bully it in others)... watch yourself as you try to hide and reject the neediness, shame the neediness, armor against the neediness.
Watch as you want to be reactive to the shame, then let the shame pass. Just let it pass.
The embrace yourself just as your are. Love yourself right there. And then promise yourself to learn to feed yourself - not because you want to save face and be good enough, but because you love yourself and you want to lovingly care for yourself.
The Instant you stop rejecting yourself trying to be more enlightened and perfect, is the instant you come into your power. TRUE POWER.
Embrace your neediness as the way your Soul tells you something is missing, something is needed. Own everything inside of you that you reject and you stop giving your power away.
It is your shame that drives you giving your power away.
You are always loved,