Hi Beauties,

Very often a man's timeline for commitment takes longer than yours. Commitment brings a huge amount of responsibility for a masculine man who internally understands commitment as duty, honor and obligation.

He is going to take longer (most likely). The more eager, anxious, demanding, expectation filled you are—the more you are proving to him that you will very easily be controlling, nagging and emasculating once married—something men tell me weekly they are afraid of when it comes to marriage.

While you don't want your time wasted here by attaching and committing to him before he does, you also don't want to rush this—a baby takes 9 months, let him go through his commitment process.

Give  men the space they need to be who they are— MEN.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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How to Identify a Masculine Man Who is Commitment Ready

Masculine men give you as a woman deep feelings of stability and security. You feel like you can be a woman around them because of their grounding, safe, powerful and focused energy. They are not flakey, indecisive, and directionless and if you feel unstable around them, are not in their masculine. (As a woman you will feel their masculine grounding in your lower body/chakras especially).

Beta Men are looking for a masculine energied woman who looks feminine typically. They want a woman to provide the grounding, direction and stability they don't have. They want the woman to provide for them like a mother does. Often men like these will have little direction, will be financially unstable, will have great ideas but not be able to succeed at any of them (idealist) and will often argue about paying for dates.

Masculine men like significance but they don't need validation to lead. Beta men will be looking for validation and popularity everywhere without doing the work to become the solid man they need to be. They are chasing fame not leadership. A masculine man will be focused on leadership and service.

Men will stay even when times are hard, if they are committed to you, they will seek for ways to work it through, they understand that life is both highs and lows.

Masculine men are looking for a High Value Queen and a real relationship, not just a pretty face that makes them look good on social media.

Masculine men do not run from commitment, they understand they are forged through commitment, commitment to building a life, a partnership, a business, etc.

Men always figure out the way to succeed through strategies, focus and resourcefulness. They get back up, they don't make excuses.

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The #1 Thing That Makes a Man Fall in Love with You

A man falls in love with you when he can be totally himself with you, like he can't be with anyone else.
When you show up with your guards down, connected to your own heart and self, you are able to create that space with a man.

That space is a space of intimacy.
In that safe space a man begins to drop out of his own head and begins feelings his own heart, his own feelings. He opens up to you because he feels safe with you. When you are yourself with him, you show that you trust yourself, that you know yourself, that you can handle your emotions. Whenever we can’t handle our emotions, we become self-absorbed.

When you accept yourself enough to be who you are with him, he feels safe to be totally himself around you. He begins to open up and share with you things he shares with no one else.  A man sees a soulmate, when he sees a companion for his soul—his innermost, truest being.

In order to open up to you, to be totally himself with you, a man needs to feel safe around you. He needs to feel he can tell you anything and you will be able to handle it. He falls in love with you when he feels he can be totally himself around you.

He feels this way because he knows that you aren't trying to control him, or your own feelings, or the circumstances to go in your favor, you are just sharing a moment with him, connecting. And when his guard comes down, and his heart begins to open, and he lets you in to his world... when you leave he begins to miss you, that space where he can be totally himself with you, the woman who knows his heart-' who is sensitive and in tune with those emotions he may not even be in tune with himself.

As a woman, your feminine is  your own presence and curiosity (which is love and interest for him) and your own intuition (able to tune in) to another's heart.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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When men aren’t mirroring back our worth to us, it has everything to do with how we’re showing up (for ourselves, in our life and with the men) and nothing to do with our value as women.

The Institute helps connect you with your eternal value, which is within you right now, exactly as you are—and then gives you the tools to lead with that inner essence more and more over time and not with the wounds and fears that obscure your feminine radiance and may have had these men pulling away after initially being in hot pursuit.


When you can create intense emotional attraction with a man, they not only stay but they never want to leave! Often it’s when that surface level attraction doesn’t develop into something with soul substance that men move on quickly… then we blame ourselves, usually attacking our appearance or our material level of success or the fact that we slept with him on the 4th date rather than the 11th instead of realising that it’s our capacity to create (and sustain) heart connection and emotional attraction. This first and foremost requires intimacy with your own heart which, if you’re anything like me, was a foreign concept for most of my life because my mind and its thoughts were all I paid attention to.

We’re all here to support you and if you feel drawn to the Institute, I couldn’t recommend it highly enough X"

→ Stated so well by one our amazing EFW graduates and now EFW leader Nada Iancov.

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You are Needy

Guys.

It's not your neediness that is your problem. It is the shame you feel because you are needy.

"I don't want them to know... I'm needy."

I will shame this part of me and hide from them.

Listen... all neediness is, is an unmet need.

If you skip lunch, you'll get hunger pains—your body needs food.

If you skip food all day- your blood sugar will talk to you—your body needs food.

If you fast for several days without proper nutritional reserves—it might weaken you into starvation mode and you will definitely be needy for food.

Would you shame your body for being hungry? No.

Why would you shame your soul for being hungry?

Neediness is an inner lack of nourishment. That is it.

When we don't properly meet our needs we will naturally meet with others from a place of inner hunger and it will show.

If you shame your hunger, it does nothing to feed the hunger.

Next time you are needy and someone tells you you are, the first thing to knowing how to nourish yourself is by acknowledging that you are hungry.

OWN the neediness as it comes up, beautifully.

Sit down and feel it. Feel the words; You are Needy.

Watch as shame begins to burn in your stomach, through your chest, all the way to your cheeks.

Watch as you quickly bully the need in you (and then bully it in others)... watch yourself as you try to hide and reject the neediness, shame the neediness, armor against the neediness.

Watch as you want to be reactive to the shame, then let the shame pass. Just let it pass.

The embrace yourself just as your are. Love yourself right there. And then promise yourself to learn to feed yourself - not because you want to save face and be good enough, but because you love yourself and you want to lovingly care for yourself.

The Instant you stop rejecting yourself trying to be more enlightened and perfect, is the instant you come into your power. TRUE POWER.

Embrace your neediness as the way your Soul tells you something is missing, something is needed. Own everything inside of you that you reject and you stop giving your power away.

It is your shame that drives you giving your power away.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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