What is Your Relationship With Your Feminine?

In the work I do I am always unearthing each woman's relationship to her feminine energy. Each woman weaves herself into her definition of Woman, but her Feminine energy remains there for her benefit or untapped. Listen in and see something I see all too often.

Client: When I was a little girl it was like I didn't count as much as my brothers. They got away with things I didn't. It was like their needs were above my own or my mother's. I don't know how I knew but it was like my mother expected me to please her and that wasn't put on my brothers. I didn't matter as much.

Gio: So what happened because of that?

Client: "Well I became a tomboy, and I tried to be like boys."

Gio: "and when your body began changing into a more womanly body, I imagine you began resenting it"

Client: "Yes, totally! How did you know?!"

Gio: "and then you started getting attention from boys..."

Client: "yes but I never wanted it, I never wanted their attention. I didn't for years and years."

Gio: Of course not, you were rejecting the very thing they were attracted to and this was secondary. And when your body started getting attention from boys, what did you do with that attention?"

Client: Silence. Hushed tones. "I… I manipulated men."

Gio: "Yep...you couldn't receive that attention and enjoy it because you were outside of your body, you were trying to get your power back, to make up for the powerlessness."

This meant my client grew up into her late 30’s unable to receive love from men, prioritizing her masculine energy in everything she did, especially her career and only using her sexuality as a means to power with men, not as a means to enjoy herself and receive pleasure.

So women equate being desirable to having power over men = having safety, social status, provision, protection, commitment, not being abandoned, etc. Instead of receiving desire as a gift, it becomes a means to an end. This leads to a woman objectifying a man—as she feels objectified herself. Men this is such a pervasive wound among women, and it is great that you understand it, especially when you see a hardened, masculine woman or a woman who doesn't fully surrender sexually. It is in the way you show up as men that can lead a hardened woman to soften and reconnect to her repressed and disconnected femininity. The harder a woman has become, the softer she was to begin with.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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How to Identify a Masculine Man Who is Commitment Ready

Masculine men give you as a woman deep feelings of stability and security. You feel like you can be a woman around them because of their grounding, safe, powerful and focused energy. They are not flakey, indecisive, and directionless and if you feel unstable around them, are not in their masculine. (As a woman you will feel their masculine grounding in your lower body/chakras especially).

Beta Men are looking for a masculine energied woman who looks feminine typically. They want a woman to provide the grounding, direction and stability they don't have. They want the woman to provide for them like a mother does. Often men like these will have little direction, will be financially unstable, will have great ideas but not be able to succeed at any of them (idealist) and will often argue about paying for dates.

Masculine men like significance but they don't need validation to lead. Beta men will be looking for validation and popularity everywhere without doing the work to become the solid man they need to be. They are chasing fame not leadership. A masculine man will be focused on leadership and service.

Men will stay even when times are hard, if they are committed to you, they will seek for ways to work it through, they understand that life is both highs and lows.

Masculine men are looking for a High Value Queen and a real relationship, not just a pretty face that makes them look good on social media.

Masculine men do not run from commitment, they understand they are forged through commitment, commitment to building a life, a partnership, a business, etc.

Men always figure out the way to succeed through strategies, focus and resourcefulness. They get back up, they don't make excuses.

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Don't regret it, just get bigger and better...

The best revenge is to diffuse the need to revenge and refocus all of your energy on having everything you desire and want.

Recently in conversations with clients things like these would come up:

But I gave him so much—and now I want to take it back.

But she benefited so much by being with me, I feel used.

And while we never bypass those emotions, we process them and learn to be with them—I want to offer you a thought. The core pain here is the feeling of being replaced and left behind. Of being used and then discarded… and the focus is off our own power of creation which is in you at all times.

At all times you can (after processing and being with your emotions) move your focus into creating for yourself… opening doors for yourself, getting bigger and better.

The best revenge is a well lived, extremely fulfilling life—full of self-forgiveness, lessons learned and achieved expansion, joy, love relationship and so much more...

This is the secret alchemy of transmuting fear into creation and power.

If you are afraid of being left behind—refocus and move forward at higher speeds with more powerful direction. Create for yourself without waiting for anyone to acknowledge.

Be happy you gave to them, be happy they benefited, and now give to yourself, create openings and expand. Healthy things grow and blossom.

You are never replaceable to your own soul and from your soul comes the power of life to create, care for you, and attract to you everything you desire.

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How do I become Magnetic to Men?

You don't look for it outside of yourself. You are either a radiant light or your light is blocked and  you are looking for a man to be your light. Men are drawn to you when you offer them the fullness of who you are from the inside. A woman with self-esteem, self-respect, boundaries, a soft, wild, alive heart that UNDERSTAND HOW TO LOVE A MAN.

So are you full, integrated and whole? Or showing up taking way more than you give?

The evidence is always in how men respond to you. Do they pursue you passionately, commit, want to claim you or do they continually leave?

Your task is to remove the layers that are keeping you showing up empty instead of with abundant feminine energy to offer a man.

Most of us don't realize how empty we approach men—asking, taking, self-absorbed. We are empty of self-esteem, worth, femininity but we are full of insecurity, co-dependent taking energy, bad relationship habits.

When we show up empty—men pull away—they don't find what they are looking for. When we show up full, embodied and feminine men are magnetized. Desire rules the world in many ways—and we are magnetized and drawn to pursue what we want and need.

Learn to connect to the core of who you are and become an Embodied Feminine Woman.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Photo Credit: @Mikutas

Photo Credit: @Mikutas

When men aren’t mirroring back our worth to us, it has everything to do with how we’re showing up (for ourselves, in our life and with the men) and nothing to do with our value as women.

The Institute helps connect you with your eternal value, which is within you right now, exactly as you are—and then gives you the tools to lead with that inner essence more and more over time and not with the wounds and fears that obscure your feminine radiance and may have had these men pulling away after initially being in hot pursuit.


When you can create intense emotional attraction with a man, they not only stay but they never want to leave! Often it’s when that surface level attraction doesn’t develop into something with soul substance that men move on quickly… then we blame ourselves, usually attacking our appearance or our material level of success or the fact that we slept with him on the 4th date rather than the 11th instead of realising that it’s our capacity to create (and sustain) heart connection and emotional attraction. This first and foremost requires intimacy with your own heart which, if you’re anything like me, was a foreign concept for most of my life because my mind and its thoughts were all I paid attention to.

We’re all here to support you and if you feel drawn to the Institute, I couldn’t recommend it highly enough X"

→ Stated so well by one our amazing EFW graduates and now EFW leader Nada Iancov.

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You are Needy

Guys.

It's not your neediness that is your problem. It is the shame you feel because you are needy.

"I don't want them to know... I'm needy."

I will shame this part of me and hide from them.

Listen... all neediness is, is an unmet need.

If you skip lunch, you'll get hunger pains—your body needs food.

If you skip food all day- your blood sugar will talk to you—your body needs food.

If you fast for several days without proper nutritional reserves—it might weaken you into starvation mode and you will definitely be needy for food.

Would you shame your body for being hungry? No.

Why would you shame your soul for being hungry?

Neediness is an inner lack of nourishment. That is it.

When we don't properly meet our needs we will naturally meet with others from a place of inner hunger and it will show.

If you shame your hunger, it does nothing to feed the hunger.

Next time you are needy and someone tells you you are, the first thing to knowing how to nourish yourself is by acknowledging that you are hungry.

OWN the neediness as it comes up, beautifully.

Sit down and feel it. Feel the words; You are Needy.

Watch as shame begins to burn in your stomach, through your chest, all the way to your cheeks.

Watch as you quickly bully the need in you (and then bully it in others)... watch yourself as you try to hide and reject the neediness, shame the neediness, armor against the neediness.

Watch as you want to be reactive to the shame, then let the shame pass. Just let it pass.

The embrace yourself just as your are. Love yourself right there. And then promise yourself to learn to feed yourself - not because you want to save face and be good enough, but because you love yourself and you want to lovingly care for yourself.

The Instant you stop rejecting yourself trying to be more enlightened and perfect, is the instant you come into your power. TRUE POWER.

Embrace your neediness as the way your Soul tells you something is missing, something is needed. Own everything inside of you that you reject and you stop giving your power away.

It is your shame that drives you giving your power away.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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