In the work I do it is sometimes really sobering to see how much the love that was absent in our childhood and how we learned to cope with that absent love, drives our relationships in our adult years.

I have seen so many women caught up in patterns of co-dependence and attached to absent love.

Think about it—if you had an absent father whose love you were always searching for—the pattern established is.

His Love is absent and you must search for it.

Therefore women often fall for emotionally unavailable men whose love is absent—and only then can these women feel in love, feel intense desire→ Because they are reliving their intense childhood desire and hoping to end it, or to meet it.

And what does absent love look like→ well it often looks like emotionally unavailable men.

And when those little girls had absent human fathers to learn to relate to, they created fantasy fathers in their mind, grabbing pieces here and there from movies, books or neighborhood fathers and created the idealized father—their projection.

So when a real man comes along, they are unable to see the man, they only see Mr. Right, Prince Charming, Rescuing Knight in Shining Armour.

They can't see the human, so the emotionally unavailable man only retracts further into his shell, his fear of being known (because who can live up to that right?)

And when an emotionally available man comes along, these beautiful women often simply don't understand this and they look for ways to sabotage it…

Because they never simply received this absent love for no other reason than Being.

This leads many women to be the pursuer in relationships with men and to chase love, over—function and over-give a guy, because they always have to earn that absent love their inner little girl was chasing…  instead of allowing love to come to them.

Because when they were children—love didn't come to them, not in the way they needed it.

This is just one of many patterns that call us to evaluate the way we give and receive love before we ever expect to have a great relationship with another loving human being."

You are always loved,

- Gio

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“Why Chasing a Man Will Not Get You Cherished As a Woman”

Control, control, control—that is why we chase a man. We don't know how to attract the love we want and so we have to find ways to force it, control it, make it happen, and force a man to like us, commit to us and be with us.

We stalk him on social media.

Text him just to say hi.

We put on an image, we try to be sweet, nice and do things for him.

We aggressively try to be nice if you know what I mean—trying hard to impress him, convince him and win him over.

All of those are the exact opposite of feminine energy whose foundation is emotional freedom. You aren't free—therefore he pushes away from the prison you are in of control.

And we control because we are disconnected from our Feminine power and because inside we allow fear and desperation to be the only means we USE to get love. It's unattractive—and no woman in her masculine energy is going to attract the sort of masculine man she wants.

That's when men pull away, ghost us, make convenient excuses like saying "he really wants to see you but he just had a family emergency or he has been super busy lately." Or maybe he does see you for coffee, or invites you to hang, or may even till take you to dinner one last time… but its clear he's no longer excited or making an effort and you somehow feel you've been put in the booty call or friend zone.

Masculine men are not attracted to Masculine energy in women. Men don't like to be controlled, chased, pursued...

How attracted would you be to a guy who takes 2 and a half hours to do his hair, nails and makeup before seeing you, who expects you to send him flowers and chocolates, and wants you to make all the plans and be the man?

No problem there with anyone doing it, I am saying that if you are the Feminine energy—you will be attracted to masculine energy (and this goes beyond gender).

Feminine energy, the real feminine energy, not the outer fake feminine energy a lot of people are teaching nowadays, triggers intense attraction in men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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What is Your Relationship With Your Feminine?

In the work I do I am always unearthing each woman's relationship to her feminine energy. Each woman weaves herself into her definition of Woman, but her Feminine energy remains there for her benefit or untapped. Listen in and see something I see all too often.

Client: When I was a little girl it was like I didn't count as much as my brothers. They got away with things I didn't. It was like their needs were above my own or my mother's. I don't know how I knew but it was like my mother expected me to please her and that wasn't put on my brothers. I didn't matter as much.

Gio: So what happened because of that?

Client: "Well I became a tomboy, and I tried to be like boys."

Gio: "and when your body began changing into a more womanly body, I imagine you began resenting it"

Client: "Yes, totally! How did you know?!"

Gio: "and then you started getting attention from boys..."

Client: "yes but I never wanted it, I never wanted their attention. I didn't for years and years."

Gio: Of course not, you were rejecting the very thing they were attracted to and this was secondary. And when your body started getting attention from boys, what did you do with that attention?"

Client: Silence. Hushed tones. "I… I manipulated men."

Gio: "Yep...you couldn't receive that attention and enjoy it because you were outside of your body, you were trying to get your power back, to make up for the powerlessness."

This meant my client grew up into her late 30’s unable to receive love from men, prioritizing her masculine energy in everything she did, especially her career and only using her sexuality as a means to power with men, not as a means to enjoy herself and receive pleasure.

So women equate being desirable to having power over men = having safety, social status, provision, protection, commitment, not being abandoned, etc. Instead of receiving desire as a gift, it becomes a means to an end. This leads to a woman objectifying a man—as she feels objectified herself. Men this is such a pervasive wound among women, and it is great that you understand it, especially when you see a hardened, masculine woman or a woman who doesn't fully surrender sexually. It is in the way you show up as men that can lead a hardened woman to soften and reconnect to her repressed and disconnected femininity. The harder a woman has become, the softer she was to begin with.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Some women often tell me: "Gio are you telling me I can't be authentic and tell him how I truly feel?"And through our work they will often see that what they considered to be “normal” ways or “authentic” ways of communicating were actually more in the realm of DRAMA, CO-DEPENDENCE, NEEDINESS, BURDEN, INVALIDATION AND REACTIVITY.

All of these aren’t our authentic selves, they are our coping selves, our survivalist selves, our fear driven selves—and when these drive, and for a lot of women they do, whether they know it or not—love cannot happen nor can it be sustained. At the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute we teach you Irresistible communication with men along with doing deep inner work to find the true, authentic you, buried under coping and survival mechanisms in love—and this becomes like magic turning our ladies into magnets for men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

The man who can hold you, your positives, your imperfections, your soul, your spirit, your humanity, the man you can be your truest self with.

A partner in life to go through the ups, to go through the downs, to build your legacy, to support your mutual vision and purpose in life.....

Always ask yourself when dating, is this man a good partner for life?

And then ask, is this man an amazing partner for the life I have on this earth.....

You want a partner—not just a marriage, a ring, a wedding, a validation certificate, you want someone who goes ALL IN and will be there, through thick and thin, and has the ability to SEE partnership for what it was meant to be.

Once you mature past the ego striving, past the wounded child desperate for love, and you are present to yourself and your life more than anything—you realize how short it really is, and you get crystal clear on what is MOST IMPORTANT—when the noise settles, what will matter. Look for THAT.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Men Can’t Read Our Minds

So, what would healthy  love do? Ladies, one big mistake we make is assume Men know how to love us

So when a guy messes up he can either receive grace and guidance or rejection and punishment from us. We go to punishment as a first option so very often it wrecks love and attraction fast.

The problem is when we think that mess up is a rejection or lack of love from him to us.

Assuming he already knows how to love you will have him feeling like he constantly disappoints that expectation (a man needs to know HOW to win with you.)

Love guides, fear demands, Love meets us where we are, fear constantly makes him fall short.

A High Value Woman accepts, rejects and lets a guy know how to win with her—she doesn't chase, lean forward, step in for him, pursue, fix but she knows how to have men with win her.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Don't regret it, just get bigger and better...

The best revenge is to diffuse the need to revenge and refocus all of your energy on having everything you desire and want.

Recently in conversations with clients things like these would come up:

But I gave him so much—and now I want to take it back.

But she benefited so much by being with me, I feel used.

And while we never bypass those emotions, we process them and learn to be with them—I want to offer you a thought. The core pain here is the feeling of being replaced and left behind. Of being used and then discarded… and the focus is off our own power of creation which is in you at all times.

At all times you can (after processing and being with your emotions) move your focus into creating for yourself… opening doors for yourself, getting bigger and better.

The best revenge is a well lived, extremely fulfilling life—full of self-forgiveness, lessons learned and achieved expansion, joy, love relationship and so much more...

This is the secret alchemy of transmuting fear into creation and power.

If you are afraid of being left behind—refocus and move forward at higher speeds with more powerful direction. Create for yourself without waiting for anyone to acknowledge.

Be happy you gave to them, be happy they benefited, and now give to yourself, create openings and expand. Healthy things grow and blossom.

You are never replaceable to your own soul and from your soul comes the power of life to create, care for you, and attract to you everything you desire.

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Being a High Value Woman is about creating an environment around you that supports you so much you flourish and become healthy—whenever you hear us talk about "High Value" think "Healthy." When we are healthy, we come alive, blossom, in all our untamed, sexy, feminine irresistibility. Make your "healthy" a top priority—emotional health, soul health, spirit health, body health, relationship health!

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What energy are you attracted to in men? Women can choose different types of men they are attracted to—a large percentage of the women we work with are very attracted to masculine energy—and as energetic of relationship go—you create “attraction”  or polarity with an energy when you show the opposite magnetic energy. Yin, Yang. Feminine/Masculine

So tell us below—do you find healthy masculine energy in men attractive?

Or are you more attracted to a man presenting with more feminine energy?

No right or wrong—just knowing your preference when it comes to yourself, what you feel attraction to  and what you desire.

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The #1 Thing That Makes a Man Fall in Love with You

A man falls in love with you when he can be totally himself with you, like he can't be with anyone else.
When you show up with your guards down, connected to your own heart and self, you are able to create that space with a man.

That space is a space of intimacy.
In that safe space a man begins to drop out of his own head and begins feelings his own heart, his own feelings. He opens up to you because he feels safe with you. When you are yourself with him, you show that you trust yourself, that you know yourself, that you can handle your emotions. Whenever we can’t handle our emotions, we become self-absorbed.

When you accept yourself enough to be who you are with him, he feels safe to be totally himself around you. He begins to open up and share with you things he shares with no one else.  A man sees a soulmate, when he sees a companion for his soul—his innermost, truest being.

In order to open up to you, to be totally himself with you, a man needs to feel safe around you. He needs to feel he can tell you anything and you will be able to handle it. He falls in love with you when he feels he can be totally himself around you.

He feels this way because he knows that you aren't trying to control him, or your own feelings, or the circumstances to go in your favor, you are just sharing a moment with him, connecting. And when his guard comes down, and his heart begins to open, and he lets you in to his world... when you leave he begins to miss you, that space where he can be totally himself with you, the woman who knows his heart-' who is sensitive and in tune with those emotions he may not even be in tune with himself.

As a woman, your feminine is  your own presence and curiosity (which is love and interest for him) and your own intuition (able to tune in) to another's heart.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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