The Kingdom of Heaven is Here And Not Yet

Sometimes I myself need to hear the words that come through me because I know there is a place inside of me where these words come from that is Divine, infinite and eternal. That place is in every human being.

And every human being is both that place—Divine, infinite and eternal...and the very human parts catching up to that, growing into that, being nourished into growth and freedom by that—the imperfect parts we want to run away from—which we need to run to.

The holding of opposites— we can be Divine powerful leaders and oh so human, not only can we be, we are. And the more loving relationship we have with every part within ourselves, the more compassionate we become, the more patient.

I love the stories that talk about the kingdom of God being here in our midst and within us and yet not fully here yet, as something that is coming.

And the parts of humanity we would run away from... the inner darker and more wounded parts of us we need to sit down with,, understand and allow to heal.

Sometimes you need to invite every part of you to a riotous dinner, have a sit down and talk, break bread, drink wine and chill. Listen to what every part of you has to say, they all have a story to tell, a reason for being, a specific place they are at in their growth and development.

You are the ultimate parent that listens to each part within you (your wounded child, your ego, your dysfunctional parts, your genius, all of them) … and holds space, love, direction, leadership and eternal compassion. That and only that way, through divine compassion and intimacy with yourself, does every part of you grow up to match the divine part of who you are.

Through love we heal, grow up into wholeness and develop into our divine potential.


You are always loved,

- Gio

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“Why Chasing a Man Will Not Get You Cherished As a Woman”

Control, control, control—that is why we chase a man. We don't know how to attract the love we want and so we have to find ways to force it, control it, make it happen, and force a man to like us, commit to us and be with us.

We stalk him on social media.

Text him just to say hi.

We put on an image, we try to be sweet, nice and do things for him.

We aggressively try to be nice if you know what I mean—trying hard to impress him, convince him and win him over.

All of those are the exact opposite of feminine energy whose foundation is emotional freedom. You aren't free—therefore he pushes away from the prison you are in of control.

And we control because we are disconnected from our Feminine power and because inside we allow fear and desperation to be the only means we USE to get love. It's unattractive—and no woman in her masculine energy is going to attract the sort of masculine man she wants.

That's when men pull away, ghost us, make convenient excuses like saying "he really wants to see you but he just had a family emergency or he has been super busy lately." Or maybe he does see you for coffee, or invites you to hang, or may even till take you to dinner one last time… but its clear he's no longer excited or making an effort and you somehow feel you've been put in the booty call or friend zone.

Masculine men are not attracted to Masculine energy in women. Men don't like to be controlled, chased, pursued...

How attracted would you be to a guy who takes 2 and a half hours to do his hair, nails and makeup before seeing you, who expects you to send him flowers and chocolates, and wants you to make all the plans and be the man?

No problem there with anyone doing it, I am saying that if you are the Feminine energy—you will be attracted to masculine energy (and this goes beyond gender).

Feminine energy, the real feminine energy, not the outer fake feminine energy a lot of people are teaching nowadays, triggers intense attraction in men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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What is Your Relationship With Your Feminine?

In the work I do I am always unearthing each woman's relationship to her feminine energy. Each woman weaves herself into her definition of Woman, but her Feminine energy remains there for her benefit or untapped. Listen in and see something I see all too often.

Client: When I was a little girl it was like I didn't count as much as my brothers. They got away with things I didn't. It was like their needs were above my own or my mother's. I don't know how I knew but it was like my mother expected me to please her and that wasn't put on my brothers. I didn't matter as much.

Gio: So what happened because of that?

Client: "Well I became a tomboy, and I tried to be like boys."

Gio: "and when your body began changing into a more womanly body, I imagine you began resenting it"

Client: "Yes, totally! How did you know?!"

Gio: "and then you started getting attention from boys..."

Client: "yes but I never wanted it, I never wanted their attention. I didn't for years and years."

Gio: Of course not, you were rejecting the very thing they were attracted to and this was secondary. And when your body started getting attention from boys, what did you do with that attention?"

Client: Silence. Hushed tones. "I… I manipulated men."

Gio: "Yep...you couldn't receive that attention and enjoy it because you were outside of your body, you were trying to get your power back, to make up for the powerlessness."

This meant my client grew up into her late 30’s unable to receive love from men, prioritizing her masculine energy in everything she did, especially her career and only using her sexuality as a means to power with men, not as a means to enjoy herself and receive pleasure.

So women equate being desirable to having power over men = having safety, social status, provision, protection, commitment, not being abandoned, etc. Instead of receiving desire as a gift, it becomes a means to an end. This leads to a woman objectifying a man—as she feels objectified herself. Men this is such a pervasive wound among women, and it is great that you understand it, especially when you see a hardened, masculine woman or a woman who doesn't fully surrender sexually. It is in the way you show up as men that can lead a hardened woman to soften and reconnect to her repressed and disconnected femininity. The harder a woman has become, the softer she was to begin with.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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How to Identify a Masculine Man Who is Commitment Ready

Masculine men give you as a woman deep feelings of stability and security. You feel like you can be a woman around them because of their grounding, safe, powerful and focused energy. They are not flakey, indecisive, and directionless and if you feel unstable around them, are not in their masculine. (As a woman you will feel their masculine grounding in your lower body/chakras especially).

Beta Men are looking for a masculine energied woman who looks feminine typically. They want a woman to provide the grounding, direction and stability they don't have. They want the woman to provide for them like a mother does. Often men like these will have little direction, will be financially unstable, will have great ideas but not be able to succeed at any of them (idealist) and will often argue about paying for dates.

Masculine men like significance but they don't need validation to lead. Beta men will be looking for validation and popularity everywhere without doing the work to become the solid man they need to be. They are chasing fame not leadership. A masculine man will be focused on leadership and service.

Men will stay even when times are hard, if they are committed to you, they will seek for ways to work it through, they understand that life is both highs and lows.

Masculine men are looking for a High Value Queen and a real relationship, not just a pretty face that makes them look good on social media.

Masculine men do not run from commitment, they understand they are forged through commitment, commitment to building a life, a partnership, a business, etc.

Men always figure out the way to succeed through strategies, focus and resourcefulness. They get back up, they don't make excuses.

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Some women often tell me: "Gio are you telling me I can't be authentic and tell him how I truly feel?"And through our work they will often see that what they considered to be “normal” ways or “authentic” ways of communicating were actually more in the realm of DRAMA, CO-DEPENDENCE, NEEDINESS, BURDEN, INVALIDATION AND REACTIVITY.

All of these aren’t our authentic selves, they are our coping selves, our survivalist selves, our fear driven selves—and when these drive, and for a lot of women they do, whether they know it or not—love cannot happen nor can it be sustained. At the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute we teach you Irresistible communication with men along with doing deep inner work to find the true, authentic you, buried under coping and survival mechanisms in love—and this becomes like magic turning our ladies into magnets for men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

The man who can hold you, your positives, your imperfections, your soul, your spirit, your humanity, the man you can be your truest self with.

A partner in life to go through the ups, to go through the downs, to build your legacy, to support your mutual vision and purpose in life.....

Always ask yourself when dating, is this man a good partner for life?

And then ask, is this man an amazing partner for the life I have on this earth.....

You want a partner—not just a marriage, a ring, a wedding, a validation certificate, you want someone who goes ALL IN and will be there, through thick and thin, and has the ability to SEE partnership for what it was meant to be.

Once you mature past the ego striving, past the wounded child desperate for love, and you are present to yourself and your life more than anything—you realize how short it really is, and you get crystal clear on what is MOST IMPORTANT—when the noise settles, what will matter. Look for THAT.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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The Power Of Your Feminine Energy Signals Deeply To Men

My Client shares this with me and I start laughing because it never fails.

Men always respond to your energy, they have a radar for this. My client and I have done incredible work in 5 sessions and her radiance, FEMININE ENERGY  and open heart is showing up big time.

"Gio! You won't believe it. I keep telling myself the attention I am getting from guys is a fluke or just coincidence but this isn't. My friend has a hot, super quality guy friend whom I've known for 2 years. Even though we were introduced way back when, whenever we would run into him or see him (and I would be with my friend) he would barely acknowledge me and I mean barely. He would focus on my friend and they would catch up.”

Well we ran into him again at a restaurant/bar and I just sat quietly expecting things to go as usual and be kind of ignored. He said hi to my friend but then turned around, noticed me and laser—focused in on me!!! He kept asking me questions and smiling and then asked me even more questions. I couldn't believe it!

He asked me about what I do and just kept going on and on. Then he said I looked beautiful and then asked me for my card. I told him I didn't have any cards on me so he asked if I could add him on Facebook. He then left to talk to other people, but not 15 minutes later came back to ask me why I hadn't added him on Facebook! LOL!

Then he asked me if I'd like to hang out sometime and asked for my number!!! Gio I've run into this guy several times over 2 years, he has barely noticed me and 5 weeks into working with you, the guy asks me out on a date! Yeah right! That is no fluke!!!"

The best part of this is that Bethany had never in her life been as concerned about her weight as she felt she was weighing the heaviest she ever had and yet—there you go—the guy he had the hots for asked her out. The guy she had silently admired and thought, "out of my league!"

Men feel into your energy way before they notice how you look, are dressed and act. Your energy radiates when our heart feels safe, loved, whole and supported—come join us and over 20,000 amazing women at our Free Facebook Support Group The High Value Woman!

You are always loved,


- Gio

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The World is Pushing Women Too far into Masculinity

This world continually gives us more opportunities as women, opportunities we have fought for and I am so grateful for. However as a relationship expert who coaches powerful men and women and couples each week—I see the trend of pushing women way too much into their masculine energy.

Leaving women feeling disconnected from their most powerful essence at their own core!

Masculine energy is the energy that helps us get things done:

- Has us move through our to do lists

- Conquer our empires

- Strategize and calculate everything

- Become self-sufficient and totally independent.

...and show up with men with this same leading, masculine energy... however, to men, if we show up in this energy, they feel like they are on a date with a man, a dude or a buddy. Men will routinely say to me:

"She was beautiful but she felt like a guy."

"My wife just felt like I was coming home to have sex with another man."

And all of their attraction and sexual polarity with us dries up. I coach men every week and they all tell me the same thing—they long for Feminine women… Femininity.

Just like we as women long for Masculinity in men—for a man to step up, protect, take care of, lead. Your Feminine energy looks like the moments when you are deeply connected to your heart, your softness, your receptivity (you allow yourself to be loved, pursued, adored and you drop your guardedness, reactivity and aggression. Your Feminine energy comes out when you have no goal, no agenda which means you are free to connect with those around you simply for WHO they are, not the outcome they take you too. Feminine energy is all about WHO YOU ARE and WHO HE IS. Not on trying to get someone to love you, give to you or change for you. In your Femininity, you are relaxed in your sensual, feeling body, you are empathic, taking it all in, your curiosity about life, yourself and the other comes out to play, you become a powerful force for creating wild and free and deep intimacy, connection, play… your soul emerges with it's intuition, it's inner knowing… You are Goddess.

You share the full range of your emotions to create connection, you share both light and dark, peace and storm and in sharing this open the other to share their soul with you and create a bond with you which the other's Soul feels like home and deep companionship. In your Feminine you becoming vulnerable because you allow your Soul to be seen as it is, and you make others vulnerable because you see their Souls as they are—without the personas, masks, images and facades. Acceptance.

This is absolutely and stunningly irresistible to masculine men. I have seen men get dizzy, literally lose their balance and surrender to a woman who shows up in her deep, embodied Feminine energy.

Don't buy into the marketing hype that being a powerful woman is all about your masculine energy—nothing is more anti-woman than that. You can have both energies and know when to give yourself the freedom to express them.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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The practice of listening in to your SOUL and creating intimacy with yourself, leads you to knowing how to have your Man open his heart to you in ways that have him feel completely devoted to you. People often ask, "I know I need Self-love but how do I make it real?"

How does self-love descend from your head into your heart?

Self-love descends into your heart when you are willing to look into what others would look away from. When you are willing to meet shame with acceptance, understanding, a listening ear, compassion and truth.

Self-love is your own gentle friendship with your own self. Your unwillingness to flinch, judge, belittle, shame or humiliate the parts of you you feel most humiliated for having.

You know— those dark parts we shudder to think we have—the jealous feelings, the real, ugly, anger, the inner needy taker, the insecure hater… the sellout, the part of us that is in a grey zone when it comes to integrity… the fears, the little child crying…

If you shame those aspects of yourself which is what self-rejection does (you reject those parts of you)... they will never get the ONE thing they need to come back into wholeness… your own LOVE.

Remember that whatever you don't listen to within yourself, gets shouted out to everyone else around you.

Today, gift yourself the space to listen in to any and all feelings, and keep asking your heart why it feels this way—no fixing, no numbing, no telling your heart what it should feel.

Being listened to is one of the most powerful forms of LOVE.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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