What is Your Relationship With Your Feminine?

In the work I do I am always unearthing each woman's relationship to her feminine energy. Each woman weaves herself into her definition of Woman, but her Feminine energy remains there for her benefit or untapped. Listen in and see something I see all too often.

Client: When I was a little girl it was like I didn't count as much as my brothers. They got away with things I didn't. It was like their needs were above my own or my mother's. I don't know how I knew but it was like my mother expected me to please her and that wasn't put on my brothers. I didn't matter as much.

Gio: So what happened because of that?

Client: "Well I became a tomboy, and I tried to be like boys."

Gio: "and when your body began changing into a more womanly body, I imagine you began resenting it"

Client: "Yes, totally! How did you know?!"

Gio: "and then you started getting attention from boys..."

Client: "yes but I never wanted it, I never wanted their attention. I didn't for years and years."

Gio: Of course not, you were rejecting the very thing they were attracted to and this was secondary. And when your body started getting attention from boys, what did you do with that attention?"

Client: Silence. Hushed tones. "I… I manipulated men."

Gio: "Yep...you couldn't receive that attention and enjoy it because you were outside of your body, you were trying to get your power back, to make up for the powerlessness."

This meant my client grew up into her late 30’s unable to receive love from men, prioritizing her masculine energy in everything she did, especially her career and only using her sexuality as a means to power with men, not as a means to enjoy herself and receive pleasure.

So women equate being desirable to having power over men = having safety, social status, provision, protection, commitment, not being abandoned, etc. Instead of receiving desire as a gift, it becomes a means to an end. This leads to a woman objectifying a man—as she feels objectified herself. Men this is such a pervasive wound among women, and it is great that you understand it, especially when you see a hardened, masculine woman or a woman who doesn't fully surrender sexually. It is in the way you show up as men that can lead a hardened woman to soften and reconnect to her repressed and disconnected femininity. The harder a woman has become, the softer she was to begin with.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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How to Identify a Masculine Man Who is Commitment Ready

Masculine men give you as a woman deep feelings of stability and security. You feel like you can be a woman around them because of their grounding, safe, powerful and focused energy. They are not flakey, indecisive, and directionless and if you feel unstable around them, are not in their masculine. (As a woman you will feel their masculine grounding in your lower body/chakras especially).

Beta Men are looking for a masculine energied woman who looks feminine typically. They want a woman to provide the grounding, direction and stability they don't have. They want the woman to provide for them like a mother does. Often men like these will have little direction, will be financially unstable, will have great ideas but not be able to succeed at any of them (idealist) and will often argue about paying for dates.

Masculine men like significance but they don't need validation to lead. Beta men will be looking for validation and popularity everywhere without doing the work to become the solid man they need to be. They are chasing fame not leadership. A masculine man will be focused on leadership and service.

Men will stay even when times are hard, if they are committed to you, they will seek for ways to work it through, they understand that life is both highs and lows.

Masculine men are looking for a High Value Queen and a real relationship, not just a pretty face that makes them look good on social media.

Masculine men do not run from commitment, they understand they are forged through commitment, commitment to building a life, a partnership, a business, etc.

Men always figure out the way to succeed through strategies, focus and resourcefulness. They get back up, they don't make excuses.

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Some women often tell me: "Gio are you telling me I can't be authentic and tell him how I truly feel?"And through our work they will often see that what they considered to be “normal” ways or “authentic” ways of communicating were actually more in the realm of DRAMA, CO-DEPENDENCE, NEEDINESS, BURDEN, INVALIDATION AND REACTIVITY.

All of these aren’t our authentic selves, they are our coping selves, our survivalist selves, our fear driven selves—and when these drive, and for a lot of women they do, whether they know it or not—love cannot happen nor can it be sustained. At the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute we teach you Irresistible communication with men along with doing deep inner work to find the true, authentic you, buried under coping and survival mechanisms in love—and this becomes like magic turning our ladies into magnets for men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

The man who can hold you, your positives, your imperfections, your soul, your spirit, your humanity, the man you can be your truest self with.

A partner in life to go through the ups, to go through the downs, to build your legacy, to support your mutual vision and purpose in life.....

Always ask yourself when dating, is this man a good partner for life?

And then ask, is this man an amazing partner for the life I have on this earth.....

You want a partner—not just a marriage, a ring, a wedding, a validation certificate, you want someone who goes ALL IN and will be there, through thick and thin, and has the ability to SEE partnership for what it was meant to be.

Once you mature past the ego striving, past the wounded child desperate for love, and you are present to yourself and your life more than anything—you realize how short it really is, and you get crystal clear on what is MOST IMPORTANT—when the noise settles, what will matter. Look for THAT.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Don't regret it, just get bigger and better...

The best revenge is to diffuse the need to revenge and refocus all of your energy on having everything you desire and want.

Recently in conversations with clients things like these would come up:

But I gave him so much—and now I want to take it back.

But she benefited so much by being with me, I feel used.

And while we never bypass those emotions, we process them and learn to be with them—I want to offer you a thought. The core pain here is the feeling of being replaced and left behind. Of being used and then discarded… and the focus is off our own power of creation which is in you at all times.

At all times you can (after processing and being with your emotions) move your focus into creating for yourself… opening doors for yourself, getting bigger and better.

The best revenge is a well lived, extremely fulfilling life—full of self-forgiveness, lessons learned and achieved expansion, joy, love relationship and so much more...

This is the secret alchemy of transmuting fear into creation and power.

If you are afraid of being left behind—refocus and move forward at higher speeds with more powerful direction. Create for yourself without waiting for anyone to acknowledge.

Be happy you gave to them, be happy they benefited, and now give to yourself, create openings and expand. Healthy things grow and blossom.

You are never replaceable to your own soul and from your soul comes the power of life to create, care for you, and attract to you everything you desire.

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Being a High Value Woman is about creating an environment around you that supports you so much you flourish and become healthy—whenever you hear us talk about "High Value" think "Healthy." When we are healthy, we come alive, blossom, in all our untamed, sexy, feminine irresistibility. Make your "healthy" a top priority—emotional health, soul health, spirit health, body health, relationship health!

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The Power Of Your Feminine Energy Signals Deeply To Men

My Client shares this with me and I start laughing because it never fails.

Men always respond to your energy, they have a radar for this. My client and I have done incredible work in 5 sessions and her radiance, FEMININE ENERGY  and open heart is showing up big time.

"Gio! You won't believe it. I keep telling myself the attention I am getting from guys is a fluke or just coincidence but this isn't. My friend has a hot, super quality guy friend whom I've known for 2 years. Even though we were introduced way back when, whenever we would run into him or see him (and I would be with my friend) he would barely acknowledge me and I mean barely. He would focus on my friend and they would catch up.”

Well we ran into him again at a restaurant/bar and I just sat quietly expecting things to go as usual and be kind of ignored. He said hi to my friend but then turned around, noticed me and laser—focused in on me!!! He kept asking me questions and smiling and then asked me even more questions. I couldn't believe it!

He asked me about what I do and just kept going on and on. Then he said I looked beautiful and then asked me for my card. I told him I didn't have any cards on me so he asked if I could add him on Facebook. He then left to talk to other people, but not 15 minutes later came back to ask me why I hadn't added him on Facebook! LOL!

Then he asked me if I'd like to hang out sometime and asked for my number!!! Gio I've run into this guy several times over 2 years, he has barely noticed me and 5 weeks into working with you, the guy asks me out on a date! Yeah right! That is no fluke!!!"

The best part of this is that Bethany had never in her life been as concerned about her weight as she felt she was weighing the heaviest she ever had and yet—there you go—the guy he had the hots for asked her out. The guy she had silently admired and thought, "out of my league!"

Men feel into your energy way before they notice how you look, are dressed and act. Your energy radiates when our heart feels safe, loved, whole and supported—come join us and over 20,000 amazing women at our Free Facebook Support Group The High Value Woman!

You are always loved,


- Gio

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