Why?

• He was in a loveless, horrible and unhappy marriage where he might have been trapped in it because of kids.

• 'That marriage began well, like the honeymoon period but quickly descended into unhappiness and pain—leading him to think any loving relationship can turn really unhappy—and if he's married (committed) there is no way out—and if he does this again, he won't survive it.

• His divorce ruined him financially. So many men tell me about their conversations with lawyers, prenups and the years they will have to support a wife after a divorce and give up their savings, assets or wealth. (obligation).

This is one example of many… where a man is burned off of commitment—he would rather be alone—than be trapped in an unhappy union ever again.

So he can be totally in love—and not be able to emotionally commit… sometimes ever again ladies.

So some of these man do eventually commit if she shows up emotionally safe and feminine, but others never will, even if totally in love—they are too traumatized and not able or willing to work through their intense fears.

Fall in love with a man that can give you what you want—and understand how to date a man who is in this stage of his life if you want to give him a chance.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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In the work I do it is sometimes really sobering to see how much the love that was absent in our childhood and how we learned to cope with that absent love, drives our relationships in our adult years.

I have seen so many women caught up in patterns of co-dependence and attached to absent love.

Think about it—if you had an absent father whose love you were always searching for—the pattern established is.

His Love is absent and you must search for it.

Therefore women often fall for emotionally unavailable men whose love is absent—and only then can these women feel in love, feel intense desire→ Because they are reliving their intense childhood desire and hoping to end it, or to meet it.

And what does absent love look like→ well it often looks like emotionally unavailable men.

And when those little girls had absent human fathers to learn to relate to, they created fantasy fathers in their mind, grabbing pieces here and there from movies, books or neighborhood fathers and created the idealized father—their projection.

So when a real man comes along, they are unable to see the man, they only see Mr. Right, Prince Charming, Rescuing Knight in Shining Armour.

They can't see the human, so the emotionally unavailable man only retracts further into his shell, his fear of being known (because who can live up to that right?)

And when an emotionally available man comes along, these beautiful women often simply don't understand this and they look for ways to sabotage it…

Because they never simply received this absent love for no other reason than Being.

This leads many women to be the pursuer in relationships with men and to chase love, over—function and over-give a guy, because they always have to earn that absent love their inner little girl was chasing…  instead of allowing love to come to them.

Because when they were children—love didn't come to them, not in the way they needed it.

This is just one of many patterns that call us to evaluate the way we give and receive love before we ever expect to have a great relationship with another loving human being."

You are always loved,

- Gio

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“Why Chasing a Man Will Not Get You Cherished As a Woman”

Control, control, control—that is why we chase a man. We don't know how to attract the love we want and so we have to find ways to force it, control it, make it happen, and force a man to like us, commit to us and be with us.

We stalk him on social media.

Text him just to say hi.

We put on an image, we try to be sweet, nice and do things for him.

We aggressively try to be nice if you know what I mean—trying hard to impress him, convince him and win him over.

All of those are the exact opposite of feminine energy whose foundation is emotional freedom. You aren't free—therefore he pushes away from the prison you are in of control.

And we control because we are disconnected from our Feminine power and because inside we allow fear and desperation to be the only means we USE to get love. It's unattractive—and no woman in her masculine energy is going to attract the sort of masculine man she wants.

That's when men pull away, ghost us, make convenient excuses like saying "he really wants to see you but he just had a family emergency or he has been super busy lately." Or maybe he does see you for coffee, or invites you to hang, or may even till take you to dinner one last time… but its clear he's no longer excited or making an effort and you somehow feel you've been put in the booty call or friend zone.

Masculine men are not attracted to Masculine energy in women. Men don't like to be controlled, chased, pursued...

How attracted would you be to a guy who takes 2 and a half hours to do his hair, nails and makeup before seeing you, who expects you to send him flowers and chocolates, and wants you to make all the plans and be the man?

No problem there with anyone doing it, I am saying that if you are the Feminine energy—you will be attracted to masculine energy (and this goes beyond gender).

Feminine energy, the real feminine energy, not the outer fake feminine energy a lot of people are teaching nowadays, triggers intense attraction in men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Some women often tell me: "Gio are you telling me I can't be authentic and tell him how I truly feel?"And through our work they will often see that what they considered to be “normal” ways or “authentic” ways of communicating were actually more in the realm of DRAMA, CO-DEPENDENCE, NEEDINESS, BURDEN, INVALIDATION AND REACTIVITY.

All of these aren’t our authentic selves, they are our coping selves, our survivalist selves, our fear driven selves—and when these drive, and for a lot of women they do, whether they know it or not—love cannot happen nor can it be sustained. At the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute we teach you Irresistible communication with men along with doing deep inner work to find the true, authentic you, buried under coping and survival mechanisms in love—and this becomes like magic turning our ladies into magnets for men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

You're not Just Looking For a Husband, You are Looking For a Partner in Life...

The man who can hold you, your positives, your imperfections, your soul, your spirit, your humanity, the man you can be your truest self with.

A partner in life to go through the ups, to go through the downs, to build your legacy, to support your mutual vision and purpose in life.....

Always ask yourself when dating, is this man a good partner for life?

And then ask, is this man an amazing partner for the life I have on this earth.....

You want a partner—not just a marriage, a ring, a wedding, a validation certificate, you want someone who goes ALL IN and will be there, through thick and thin, and has the ability to SEE partnership for what it was meant to be.

Once you mature past the ego striving, past the wounded child desperate for love, and you are present to yourself and your life more than anything—you realize how short it really is, and you get crystal clear on what is MOST IMPORTANT—when the noise settles, what will matter. Look for THAT.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Men Can’t Read Our Minds

So, what would healthy  love do? Ladies, one big mistake we make is assume Men know how to love us

So when a guy messes up he can either receive grace and guidance or rejection and punishment from us. We go to punishment as a first option so very often it wrecks love and attraction fast.

The problem is when we think that mess up is a rejection or lack of love from him to us.

Assuming he already knows how to love you will have him feeling like he constantly disappoints that expectation (a man needs to know HOW to win with you.)

Love guides, fear demands, Love meets us where we are, fear constantly makes him fall short.

A High Value Woman accepts, rejects and lets a guy know how to win with her—she doesn't chase, lean forward, step in for him, pursue, fix but she knows how to have men with win her.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Being a High Value Woman is about creating an environment around you that supports you so much you flourish and become healthy—whenever you hear us talk about "High Value" think "Healthy." When we are healthy, we come alive, blossom, in all our untamed, sexy, feminine irresistibility. Make your "healthy" a top priority—emotional health, soul health, spirit health, body health, relationship health!

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The World is Pushing Women Too far into Masculinity

This world continually gives us more opportunities as women, opportunities we have fought for and I am so grateful for. However as a relationship expert who coaches powerful men and women and couples each week—I see the trend of pushing women way too much into their masculine energy.

Leaving women feeling disconnected from their most powerful essence at their own core!

Masculine energy is the energy that helps us get things done:

- Has us move through our to do lists

- Conquer our empires

- Strategize and calculate everything

- Become self-sufficient and totally independent.

...and show up with men with this same leading, masculine energy... however, to men, if we show up in this energy, they feel like they are on a date with a man, a dude or a buddy. Men will routinely say to me:

"She was beautiful but she felt like a guy."

"My wife just felt like I was coming home to have sex with another man."

And all of their attraction and sexual polarity with us dries up. I coach men every week and they all tell me the same thing—they long for Feminine women… Femininity.

Just like we as women long for Masculinity in men—for a man to step up, protect, take care of, lead. Your Feminine energy looks like the moments when you are deeply connected to your heart, your softness, your receptivity (you allow yourself to be loved, pursued, adored and you drop your guardedness, reactivity and aggression. Your Feminine energy comes out when you have no goal, no agenda which means you are free to connect with those around you simply for WHO they are, not the outcome they take you too. Feminine energy is all about WHO YOU ARE and WHO HE IS. Not on trying to get someone to love you, give to you or change for you. In your Femininity, you are relaxed in your sensual, feeling body, you are empathic, taking it all in, your curiosity about life, yourself and the other comes out to play, you become a powerful force for creating wild and free and deep intimacy, connection, play… your soul emerges with it's intuition, it's inner knowing… You are Goddess.

You share the full range of your emotions to create connection, you share both light and dark, peace and storm and in sharing this open the other to share their soul with you and create a bond with you which the other's Soul feels like home and deep companionship. In your Feminine you becoming vulnerable because you allow your Soul to be seen as it is, and you make others vulnerable because you see their Souls as they are—without the personas, masks, images and facades. Acceptance.

This is absolutely and stunningly irresistible to masculine men. I have seen men get dizzy, literally lose their balance and surrender to a woman who shows up in her deep, embodied Feminine energy.

Don't buy into the marketing hype that being a powerful woman is all about your masculine energy—nothing is more anti-woman than that. You can have both energies and know when to give yourself the freedom to express them.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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How do I become Magnetic to Men?

You don't look for it outside of yourself. You are either a radiant light or your light is blocked and  you are looking for a man to be your light. Men are drawn to you when you offer them the fullness of who you are from the inside. A woman with self-esteem, self-respect, boundaries, a soft, wild, alive heart that UNDERSTAND HOW TO LOVE A MAN.

So are you full, integrated and whole? Or showing up taking way more than you give?

The evidence is always in how men respond to you. Do they pursue you passionately, commit, want to claim you or do they continually leave?

Your task is to remove the layers that are keeping you showing up empty instead of with abundant feminine energy to offer a man.

Most of us don't realize how empty we approach men—asking, taking, self-absorbed. We are empty of self-esteem, worth, femininity but we are full of insecurity, co-dependent taking energy, bad relationship habits.

When we show up empty—men pull away—they don't find what they are looking for. When we show up full, embodied and feminine men are magnetized. Desire rules the world in many ways—and we are magnetized and drawn to pursue what we want and need.

Learn to connect to the core of who you are and become an Embodied Feminine Woman.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Photo Credit: @Mikutas

Photo Credit: @Mikutas